Dear Mrs D Answers Your Questions
Q: I created my profile 3 weeks ago, my membership is about to run out and I’ve received no messages. What am I doing wrong?
A: Well how many messages have you sent? Remember that you get out what you put in. Give it another month of sending at least one message out daily and see if you are in the same place then.
Q: I went on a date with someone I didn’t really like. Am I supposed to call or email to let them know or should I just let it go?
A: It is understood that if you are dating online you are meeting a fair number of people and generally rejection from a first online date isn’t taken that seriously. If they don’t call you again, the feeling is probably mutual. If they do call or email, an email to politely decline the next date and wish them the best should suffice.
Q: I want to go out with girls but I’m in school and I don’t have much money. I don’t want them to think I’m a cheapskate. What can I do?
A: Most girls would be understanding of this as long as you are upfront. I know men often feel that women will think less of them if they don’t have much money but usually the right girl will not. Take her out for coffee on the first date. Casually mention your situation (and not when the check comes). Offer to cook dinner for her or take her on a picnic, something that won’t be costly but would be romantic.
Q: I swear I have read every profile on my site. I don’t like any of the guys who are signed up. Should I just give up?
A: There are a few things you could do in this situation. Try expanding your search criteria. Look a little further, a little taller, a little shorter. Read profiles of new members, check who is online when you are, and take a closer look at the matches you are sent by the site. There may be someone you’ve overlooked. If all else fails, try another site. You may just be swimming in the wrong pool.